Since I have been reflecting on the social conditions on Kerala, probably this might be something interesting.
A year or so before, around twenty of our friends were having some heated arguments sitting on the wall that had been the rendezvous for several years in the evenings in Tirur. Some one came up with the topic of sexual harassment and they were discussing sexual abuse by women in their family!
An informal survey amongst those present revealed that 80% of us were sexually abused between the ages of 8 and 12 by aunts or cousins(girls). For me the surprise was not the result of the survey, but the fact that none of them were surprised!
I really wonder how such a survey would come up if it is done on all Kerala basis?!
If some one is wondering why I am mentioning this in this blog, this is my answer to you. We are talking about "creating better places for people to live and for people to visit" as part of Responsible Tourism initiatives all around the world. If we can't understand the social dynamics of the places we operate, probably we wont be able to give the insights into the place and lives of people.
Tirur © GP 2007
you really have weird friends!
ReplyDeleteisn't the said percentage a bit high for any randomly selected group? and what constitutes sexual abuse to these boys- have you wondered it could be a case of 'me too' as so frequently happens during a boys-only bash. these are strong allegations to be laid at a society's ?doorstep.
ReplyDeleteG, Your anonymous friend seems to be lost between his (her) sense of morality as u have pointed out. I dont know how much courage u might have conjured up to say wat u have said, esply when u r in the public domain..kudos!a big hug to u!!!!
ReplyDeleteFirst, Elizabeth I am not lost. Morality/pseudo-morality what exactly are the definitions we should follow?
ReplyDeleteGP,I am not making assumptions here about your friends. Even you cannot know everything.(Me not at ALL).Good! now I know that you know the definition very well.
Child abuse statistics vary in various countries becouse it is so underreported in almost all societies. but still your 0/0 is on the higher side.
I didn't think you were a precocious teenager in the T&T industry.And now that you are feeling courageous and somewhere in Kerala you should go confront your perpetrator.That is the final step in catharsis.
You know her and you are unveiled........
hehe, Who is this Mr anonymous :)? Sounds like an insecured nationalistic right wing who is all set to protect the culture of india. ;) get a life Mr.
ReplyDeleteGP,do u know this guy? i didnt see the comments on sexual abuse as an attack on indian house hold or anything of that sort. nor do i see it as a generalistaion of a society. what u guys have discussed is something that we hear in our metro as well. not only something to do with keralans.
What makes you think that Anonymous is a Mr and not Mrs or Miss :)?
ReplyDeletewho said women cannot be perpetrators.it is just about %.
ReplyDelete-Anonymous
Does it matter if I am male or female? why think about genders think about 'humans'as different from say the millipede(even that has rights!)